A year or two ago I came across the quote “STOP THE GLORIFICATION OF BUSY”, and it has been my ego deflating go-to mantra ever since. The ego, or the controlling part of us, loves the drama of being busy. Even though it feels stressful and upsetting, being busy makes us feel like we have a purpose, but more to the point, it blocks us from having to address the deeper stuff we don’t want to see, or aren’t ready to deal with.
The holidays are the perfect time to welcome busy-ness as it can be such an emotionally charged time of year. Not only is it a time that you often meet up with people you wouldn’t normally choose to see, but it is a time that also offers a lot of reflection: Who is no longer with us? How will the changes of the past year play out? How does this year compare to last? Am I happy with where I am? Do I need to change? How will cope with seeing that person? How will I cope with my family difficulties? What can I say to make them feel better?
Amongst this constant brain chatter, the busy social calendars and the all too enticing opportunities to numb (drinking, meals out, loud conversations, manic shopping, constant company) you must give yourself some mental, emotional and physical SPACE.
One minute is all you need.
DEDICATE ONE MINUTE TO CALM, RELAX AND RESET
1. Find a quiet, calm space where you won’t be interrupted
2. Lie, sit or stand still
3. Breathe in and out through your nose, and scan from head to toe telling each part of your body to relax and let go.
Relax your forehead. Soften your eyes. Release your jaw. Relax your throat. Let go of your shoulders. Let your ribs melt. Calm your spine. Let your belly soften. Relax your butt. Release your hips. Empty your legs. Feel the weight of your feet.
4. Now take a deep breath in and imagine filling every part of you as if you were blowing up a balloon version of yourself – your breath fills your head, neck, front ribs, back ribs, arms, fingers, lower back, belly, hips, legs, feet and toes.
5. On your exhale let your breath out like a big sigh. Feel the weight of your bones, the relief in your tissues. Feel calmness wash over you.
I hope this one minute body scan supported by your breath helps you realise that it’s not necessary to hold it all together by gripping and tensing your body. Quite the opposite is true – when you give yourself space everything becomes easier.
It also becomes easier to accept that everything is as it should be. The bigger picture is far greater than we can ever imagine.
“Out of clutter find simplicity; From discord find harmony; In the middle of difficulty lies opportunity.” ~ Albert Einstein