THE MODERN WOMAN

No matter how busy you feel, please take time to watch this TEDx talk by Dr. Libby Weaver. Libby is Australasia’s leading nutritional biochemist and her approach to the health and well-being of the modern woman is beautifully and honestly pitched. Yes, it is true, the modern woman is undergoing a crisis which is wreaking havoc on her health and the relationships she has with her partner, friends, family and children. In my work I also see women who, despite being utterly spent, keep pushing forward.

“She” feels like she must be the dependable, resilient and fearless mother/partner/employee despite lacking in sleep and proper nourishment. She constantly feels like a failure with no self-control; she is never skinny enough, youthful enough, intelligent enough, fun enough; she is trying to be the pleaser and the support system for all but behind the scenes is falling apart… sound familiar?

This video is not only for women, but also for the men out there who may not be aware that this is going on, or for the men out there who are behaving in a very similar way. As Libby says: it is time for change. This way of living is not sustainable. It is time to get honest and allow our primal mechanisms more time to adjust to the demand of our modern day lifestyle and its expectations.

DO SCHOOLS KILL CREATIVITY?

This is yet another passionate and informative TED talk. Here, Sir Ken Robinson discusses the importance of cultivating our natural born creativity – that deep innate capacity we are all born with is vital to life, not only for ourselves but also for economic and cultural reasons.

It is very sad but very true that dominant approaches to education are suppressing creativity – too many of children’s natural abilities are being squandered, and too many adults are in jobs or living lives without true passion or heart.

This movement to favour and value more ‘conventional’ subjects such as mathematics and science was born out of the need to meet industrialism in the 19th century. It was here where we learnt to steer ourselves away from doing the things we like; hearing and believing that we could never get a job doing what we enjoyed. As Ken suggests, it is indeed a travesty that so many brilliant, highly talented people think they are not, just because academic ability dominates our view of intelligence.

We are well past the Industrial Revolution, it is time to start valuing and nurturing the natural gifts that people are born with. As adults, we do not need to spend our lives doing something we dislike, and as parents we must learn to trust, honour and nurture whatever our children show a natural propensity for.

We must shift living from a place of fear and control, to living where we embrace our intuition, follow what feels good, what excites and brings joy.

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“Current systems of education are failing to meet the challenges we now all face and they’re working furiously to create alternatives….As the rate of change continues to accelerate, building new forms of education on alternative principles is not a romantic whimsy: it’s essential to personal fulfilment and to the sustainability of the world we are now creating” – Sir Ken Robinson.

Video: FEAR AS AN AMAZING GIFT

This TED talk is another favourite of mine. Novelist Karen Thompson Walker offers an interesting way of reading and listening to fear – rather than something negative and disadvantageous, she suggests we use fear as a tool to offer wisdom, insight and truth:

Our fears are an amazing gift of the imagination … a way of glimpsing what might be the future when there’s still time to influence how that future will play out.

Video: VULNERABILITY & SHAME

If you haven’t already seen this thought-provoking TED talk by Brené Brown, please set aside 20 minutes today to watch and absorb. Really engaging lecture on what she deems “the epidemic of shame” in our culture, and how we can rethink, and reprogram the way we deal with feelings of shame in our lives:

I also recommend checking out her talk on vulnerability, in which she advocates embracing the vulnerable, uncertain moments in our lives rather than avoiding, as “When we numb [hard feelings], we numb joy, we numb gratitude, we numb happiness.” I found both of these lectures totally inspiring and eloquent, and they demonstrate how our thought-processes have such a profound impact on our well-being: